Step Minus One Create an Awesome Mood
Before you speak, this is the most important step.
Your body language and vocal projection tells her more about you than what you say.
This is pretty easy if you feel great about yourself.
You will not be able to get her attention if you appear depressed or anxious. Nightclubs are meant to be fun.
How to be in a great mood?
It will be helpful to have a good life and a high self-esteem. It’s also great to have a group of friends who are supportive. Many people drink alcohol… I enjoy making jokes with a group of people at the club. This can help you overcome any fears of meeting new people.
Step 1: Open
What you say at a nightclub is not important.
Your vibe is more important. Are you confident? Are you confident? Are you fun? The nightclubs are FUN.
Just say anything that comes to mind and you find funny.
This is much better than some clever pick-up lines that you have created to impress her. They are so embarrassing for girls. It’s important to be spontaneous.
- My KFC Colonel Card is a great way to start conversations.
- The first thing I said to my ex-girlfriend was: “Do you enjoy wearing it? It’s been ironed.”
- Ciaran Callam, my business partner, likes to ask: “Hey guys! How’s it going?” It might sound too simple, but his positive energy makes people want to speak to him.
Step 2: Talk
In clubs, attractive women attract a lot more male attention. Most of these guys tend to be creepy losers. They develop a “firewall”, which is a defensive response when approached.
You may be mistaken for the next creepy night until you can prove her wrong. So don’t get discouraged if she is not immediately receptive.
For the first few minutes, you will need to hold 90-100% to the conversation.
We teach students how to do this as part of our confidence-building program. They talk to a lamppost in silence for three minutes.
Once she sees that you are confident and fun despite her indifference to you, she will start to warm to you.
Step 3: Befriend her friends
You should also make sure that she likes you.
They will stop her from talking to you if they do not. This is something she’ll let happen almost every time. She values her friends’ opinions more than any random guy.
You should approach her as a group, and then you can focus on the girl once you’ve won over the entire group.
You’ll need to win her over again once she thinks you are awesome. Before she will go home with you, she’ll need to approve of her.
Step 4: Flirt
Please do not forget this step.
This is one of the most common mistakes I see men make.
It’s better to be friendly and nice to avoid blowing your fragile ego. You WILL be blown away if you do not flirt with her at some point — but in a nicer way. She will probably say, “Nice to meet you”, and then walk away to find a guy with the courage to ask for what she wants.
It’s not necessary to be a Johnny Bravo and just talk about her hotness… but you should sprinkle in some flirtatious remarks.
You should also try some physical flirting
Start by doing something small. You could play with her jewellery, put your arm around her, or do the classic “spin-handshake”.
You’ll want to take her away from the group of friends she’s with (to the dancing floor, bar, or smoking area, perhaps) so that she is more likely to be open to your behavior.
Step 5: The “close”
Since you didn’t specifically ask about it, I’ll be brief. It could be a kiss or a number exchange, or it could mean pulling her into your home for sex. It can be whatever you and your partner want.
Here are my main tips to ensure a smooth closing.
- Be decisive.
- Women hate to be judged for their promiscuity by other women.
- Use protection
You should plan ahead if you are going to pull her back.
Before you leave, you should plan your route home.
Make it easy for her by adding baby steps.
I start with simple things like: let’s go outside and get some fresh air/let’s grab a quick bite/there are drinks in my house/let me show something cool in my room/kiss.
When you’re dancing in a club, “Let me show something cool to you in my bedroom” is not a good idea.
Bonus Tips
They are things that I have found to be effective. These are not mandatory rules.
1: The dancefloor: I avoid the dancefloor if it is too noisy. It’s not impossible. Dancing is an excellent excuse to be physically active. My strength is talking, so I make sure people can hear what I have to say.
2: Kissing at the club: To show I’m not a snot, I will kiss her only once in the bar. You can get a girl to stop if you are ‘the make out guy’ at the club. Sometimes the anti-slut defense can kick in because the mystery is gone. It’s more effective to wait until you are alone before acting on the sexual tension.
3: Visit a club close to your home: London is rife with pick-up novices who frequent nightclubs located in the centre of London, which are at least 30 minutes away from affordable neighborhoods. There are hundreds of girls at these clubs but it’s often difficult to pull them out. Logistics is the king. If your logistics are bad, you should either move or attend a club closer to home.
